Question by Marciea: Why would my husband say he doesn’t love me anymore just to get me into counseling?
My husband has PTSD; he went to afghanistan 6 years ago and experienced a lot. It took me 4 years of dealing with his anger to convince him into counseling with the VA. Now, after two years of hits and misses with his appts. he tells me this:

I dont love you or anyone. two days later, “I told you I don;t love you”, now today, its “I love you and I only said that to get you into counseling”, which I said if he needed me to I wouldnt resist.

So this sounds to me like he really doesnt love me anymore, why would he say it if he didnt mean it and more then once? I told him I was confused about this and he said I was confused because I need counseling. Whats the deal?

Now, is his response because of the PTSD or is it because he really doesnt love me anymore. I really need to understand this because for 6 years he has pushed me away, stopped having sex, and yells everytime we try to communicate.

Do I have a right to be happy or am I obligated to stick this out for the rest of my life? You know, “till death do I part”. And thats the other fear, his anger. He has only hit me once when he first came home but since then he has beaten two of my daughters boyfriends, my other daughters husband, threatens customers at the store he manages, and on and on.

I do love him but after all these years of anger and hurtful words and neglect in the sexual area; Do I have a right to leave?
I have suggested to go to his counselors with him but he says no, doesnt want me there. As for the kids that he hit, its wasnt the fact that he hit them, its the fact that he darn near killed them. they all ended up at the hospital.

He is going to counseling a bit more now but he is getting worse in my opinion. I have been here for him this whole time, I really have but he is treating me worse and worse. I thought his counseling would help but he is getting further and further from me.

Im sure I have said things that have hurt him, it happens, but I would never tell him I dont love him unless I really didnt.

Now he is offering me 10,000 to leave and give up my home. I have been a housewife because he asked me to, I have a 15 year old to raise. I don’t want this but damn, offering me money to leave and then tell me “I love you and I just want you to go to your own counselor”

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Answer by JANCK fan
he doesnt like you anymore and he wants you to go to counseling.

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