Question by Metoo: What Can I Do After One Serious Grief After Another?
My life has been more than difficult lately. I lost my job (after trauma/abuse starting my career as a teacher), my fiancee who has been with me since we were practically kids just let me; and I was diaganosed with an ongoing illness (that is not terminal and can be controlled with medication, but it is still upsetting because it makes it difficult for me to be able to have children). I feel like all of my dreams are shattered (my dream of marrying my partner, having kids, teaching). I’m living at home, don’t have a car, and feel useless.

I’ll be going away in a few days to stay with my dad in another city, but after that I don’t know what to do. I’ve been looking for jobs for months and have been working part time as a substitute teacher, which I am very miserable doing and just can’t face anymore.

I don’t know where to start to pick up my life. I’ve started praying, but other than that, what can I do? I want to work again but I’m afraid I won’t be very good around people right now since I am severely depressed. At work, they expect you to force a happy face and be chipper, when I feel severe sadness and pain inside that only gets worse when I fake it. I’ve been to counseling but am told to “change my thoughts” etc., which may be helpful in some cases but with all the grief and broken dreams I’ve had come at me recently, I just don’t think “changing my thoughts” is a very therepeutic solution.

Can anyone relate? Did you ever lose something or someone important and feel all alone and stuck? Please tell me what you or someone you know did to help yourself get better. Please don’t tell me to “just get a job” or “buck up” unless you have some serious suggestions about what I can do for a job while I’m in this almost non-functional state. Thank you.
Thank you to everyone for the advise/support. I’m not trying to compare myself to those who have had more severe losses than mine, but I do consider these things “grief” because I’ve lost major parts of myself, especially my partner who was my best friend for many years. It’s like a piece of me has died. We were not just bf/gf but like a married couple, and he still loves me but has his own grief that he had to leave to deal with.

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Answer by abc
look on the bright side, you have a place to live while you find a job, you found out BEFORE you got married that the guy wasn’t the one for you….your medical condition can be controlled with medicine……

we have all lost something and felt alone and stuck, give yourself 3 days to cry and feel sorry for yourself, then look on the bright side, pick yourself up by your bootstraps and get your butt going. You will find a job, you will meet the right person for you…..unfortunately, changing your thinking is what you need to do … Look for the good, and you will surely find it!

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