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Question by : I need to end an argument with my wife: Does having a Facebook account and being addicted to it ruin marriages?
My wife and I are a relatively young couple. 10 years of marriage and she just turned 30 years old (I am 29). We have a 9 year old and a 5 year old. My wife works, I’m the at home parent because I am disabled. My wife works 9 to 5 but works an hour away from home so it’s more like 8 to 6. When she gets home, she eats dinner with us as a family, then she plays on Facebook from 7pm to 10pm or later. When she’s on the computer, you can’t interrupt her because she is “winding down from a hard day”. I told her that I’d rather she drank wine to “wind down” or locked herself in the room and had alone time; but she said this is what she enjoys doing to relax… At bed time, she rarely helps putting the kids to bed; but if she does, it’s so stressful that she has to get BACK onto the computer or play on her phone (which also has internet)… When she and I go to bed, she is SOOOO stimulated from all of the internet use (and the obsessing of what she’s missing while working – which isn’t much cuz her friends work too) that she needs a 1 hour backrub to “settle down” for bed… In the morning, she will get on the computer for an hour (after spending 3-4 hours the night before) and then she will be crabby that she has to get off and go to work… She has expressed that she would like to be home with the kids instead of me like it used to be; but when I was working (before I became disabled and lost my job) she couldn’t handle cleaning the house and doing responsible things like paying bills on time. I ran a log on the router to track traffic and she would clock 7 hours or more on the computer during my 12 hour shifts (most of it was on Facebook and other social networking sites)….. So what’s your thoughts, does having an internet based social life (primarily on Facebook and through texts but NOT on the phone or in person) cause a marriage/family to fail??? It’s clear to me that she has an internet addiction, but like most addicts, she refuses to see it as a problem and I’m just “being a baby” when I complain about her use. The kids are being neglected, I’m being neglected, and HER NEEDS are being neglected (she complains that there isn’t enough time to read, do crafts, see her friends, watch movies, or anything – obvious symptoms of an addiction that she can’t control)… I don’t want to come off as a controlling husband so I have NOT taken these matters in my own hands, but the family needs a mother/wife and not a teenager who can’t let go of her dreams of being popular…. Feel free to answer the question above, and/or offer me advice – please no smartass comments like “divorce her” or “see counseling” because I think this can be corrected without those venues…
@Andrea — She clicks peoples lame links and will spend hours on picture sites that people posted (like people of wallmart) and she does play games on there (Sims Social and CastleVille). But she is a part of a group of women who are equally addicted to the internet; so when one of them posts something online, it’s like a new topic was opened and she can watch the drama/gossip unfold…

Question by xjuicyxfruityx: Do I really need to go to a counsellor?
Basically it all started because I needed an extension for a piece of work.

I was refered to Student Guidence & Support to explain my reasons for wanting one. So I began my story…..which involves the death of my ex boyfriend and how that has affected my ability to keep on top of work as well as recent illnessess.

Anyways I was telling the whole story and for some reason when the woman said “So u’ve been coping with grief…” I started to cry! OMG so embarrassing!

Anyways she has advised me to come back for a chat and see one of the University counsellors…

But is this necessary?

Doesnt going mean I am admitting I have some kind of problem?

Coz really I am coping fine! Have my good days and my bad….like everyone else right? x

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Question by : I need help with home defense.?
We have crazy neighbors. At first they just seemed to be annoying, but it turns out their son, a drug addict who was in prison for 3 years and had to go through “psychological counseling” is coming to their house and staying there. We have 4 dogs, and we usually keep a male in the house at night. We have one gun, a .380 5 shot automatic. We are going to buy a glock, and a home security system. What other tips do you have for home defense? Am I being paranoid?

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Answer by Nora Lang
Window screens, sliding lock on doors.. etc. And yea you’re being a little paranoid, but better safe than sorry.

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Question by Joseph Z: I need a catchy title for my science fair project (faaast)?
yeah. its 2:am and I have everything, but a title. I’ll check this before I leave to my school science fair so I can print out a title. My project’s subtitle will be “Tridimensional Personality Model as a predictor for risky behavior in Adolescents”. It is about comparing Dr. Claude Robert Cloninger’s personalality scale (The TPM) to one’s likelyhood to have engaged in any risky bahaviour (in this case smoking and caffeine addiction as my principal wouldn’t let me include things like marijuana on my suurvey). Hopefully that gave you a good idea of what my project is about and maybe someone can answer my question.
-thx!

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Answer by tresis38
risky business lol.

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Drug Treatment Programs in the News

Drug Treatment Programs: We need to ensure mental health treatment continues to be available
Continue to support prevention programs such as the Suicide Coalition, Big Brothers/Big Sisters and various drug/alcohol school and community programs. Restore treatment programming and the availability of treatment to people that do not have insurance …
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Drug Treatment Programs: Shock Incarceration program cuts prison time for non-violent felons
Prosecutors, defense attorneys and judges weigh options like jail and prison terms as well as programs like Shock Incarceration and the Willard Program — a drug-rehabilitation program that diverts drug addicts to a 90-day treatment program rather than …
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Drug Treatment Programs: Addiction docs restate anti-marijuana stance
Kevin Sabet, a former senior adviser to the president's drug czar and a fellow at the University of Pennsylvania's Center for Substance Abuse Solutions, said relying on hoped-for treatment and research dollars as a rationale for legalization is naive, …
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Treatment For Dual Diagnosis in the News

Treatment For Dual Diagnosis: Dual diagnoses need better support
In 1999, I was admitted to an Alberta Hospital for treatment to assist me with my addiction to alcohol. It was brought to my attention then that I not only suffered from the disease of alcoholism, but also from the diagnosis of being bi-polar. …
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Treatment For Dual Diagnosis: Recovery Center Adds Deep Sea Fishing To Activities
Twelve Palms Recovery Center, a private, dual diagnosis drug and alcohol treatment facility located in Jensen Beach, Florida announces the addition of deep sea fishing to its activities menu, an addition aimed at complementing, as well as expanding on …
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