Question by #3 Due April 22, 2010 ?: marriage??
is it really worth making my marriage work??i’ve been married for 5 years and have been having lots of problems lately. about two years ago i found out he was talking to sme chick ( MY EX BEST FRIEND!) still to this day he denies of cheating he said they were just friends, but yet wanted to divorce me! he’s in the military so i contactd his command and told them about his affair, his command talked to him and gave him orders NOT to talk to this home recker he stoped….so i think! since then we have been trying to make things work we have our good days and our really really bad days! we argue about the smallest things but blow up into huge arguements!! why?? i don’t know? we have two boys together and my heart breaks every time i think of us getting a divorce i ca’nt imagine my boys with out their dad !it truly breaks my heart!! it’s not just to stay married for the boys i do love this man. but he tells me he doesn’t love me but yet still wants me around still wants to kiss and hug me ..i’m so confused why would he want to hug &kiss me if he doesn’t want me?? i’ve asked him to try marriage counseling with me and he agrees but when ever i make appts he makes up and excuse why he can’t make it. i’m just so tired of being in this marriage by my self but i love him!! any advise pls help!”
i just don’t understand why he wouldn’t tell me he was talking to her if nothing was going on ! why keep it a secret?

Best answer:

Answer by David T
just because your husband was talking to your ex best friend doesn’t mean he was sleeping with her.

It sounds like you need to lighten up a little bit here and let him breathe.

I’ve been married for 31 years, been in the military, casually looked at other women, but did I want to sleep with them? No!

You have to quit being so suspicious and don’t go running to his commander every time you think there is a marital problem … they have counselors for that.

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