Question by Something: I’ve Just Came Out Of A Mental Abuse Relationship, Now I’m Seeing This Guy. I Just Need Some Advice!?
The old me was crazy, wild, creative and never cares what people think or say about or too me. It suddenly stopped when I met my ex, I nearly lost my friends because of him. I went out with him for 9 months and I tried to get out of it as much as possible however, he was so controlling over me. Also, after a few months with in the relationship I stopped doing my hobbies and my inspirations.
My ex was ignoring me, like we both walk down the street and I 5 steps behind him. Furthermore, he flirted with girls right in front of me, so talked to his friends more than I get to talk to my own “boyfriend”. When I didn’t want to go somewhere and he wanted to go somewhere, he grabbed my wrist and pulled it. One day my ex, ex saw and nearly punched him!
While he was ignoring me and I was talking to his friends, there was one that I was starting to like. One time I nearly cried in front of him because my ex made me that upset, and he always protecting me and making sure I was alright.
I did try to dumb him buy face to face, however it didn’t work, he started to cry and saying “I want you back and I love you” so stupid me I stayed with him.
Another time he humiliated me, right in front of everyone when he told about my sex life between me and him. At that point I just hated myself.
So basically my confidence has gone done hill, now I do care what people think…

My ex was on holiday in Scotland and then a week later I was on holiday south of England. So we was on holiday at the time with both of our family’s. I got a phone call, like always because he rings me up about 7 times a day! Then I heard his dad saying in the background “Right you like another girl” my ex said “Yeah”. When I heard that it felt like a gun shot to my stomach. He started shouting saying “*my name* how long have you been on the phone for?”
“you rang me”
“oh right, errrmmmm I will ring you soon” then he put the phone down
So after a few days of thinking about it really hard and talking to my family, I’ve decided to dumb him buy Facebook then text.

When I got home he started ringing me over and over again, and he didn’t even tell his friends or family that we split up. After about 4 or 3 weeks later he got his own friends to tell me that he still wants me back.

Now after about a month the constant “your ex wants you back” or “hey I’ve heard you and *him* are still going out” it finally calmed down. So buy that stage I stated going to college and doing what I love doing is music.
Now I’m this guy my ex’s mate and my ex told me that “it was his best mate” it wasn’t, there not even acquaintances. Apparently I knew him more than my ex did, which did shock me.
I him known for about nearly a year now. We text each other everyday, and he came over to my house about 6 – 7 times so far. Well we kinda kissed as well and he makes me feel special. However, in the back of my mind I just don’t want to be heartbroken again.

So why do I still feel like “I Hate Myself” and why do I think he’s going to use me like my ex?
I just need some advice.

Best answer:

Answer by Ivy Vine
At the FIRST SIGN of abuse from your new B/F, DUMP HIM LIKE A HOT POTATO!!! You’ve had one bad marriage, you do NOT need another one! There are way too many of the “bad guys”, but there are a lot of “good ones” too… take your time, and be real selective! It’s a big ocean out there, so go fishing!

There is a good chance that your Ex- will try to get you back – DO NOT GO! If you do, you’re in for more of the same! He’s a controller and he knows he can control you.

AS far as feeling bad about yourself, it is _NOT_YOUR_ fault! EVERYBODY makes mistakes, so you’re not alone! THINK POSITIVE! If you need help with your self image, counselling is available! Talk to your clergy. Another possibility is check of there’s a “Drop-in center” in your town. (Most cities have them.) If you can’t find one, call your local info-crisis line. They will have the information.

Good Luck and God Bless.

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