Question by Ernesto: If someone mentions that they have lost someone in an email…?
Relationship status: acquaintances becoming closer.

Is it proper to inquire about the person who has died and give some words of encouragement or should I just stick with providing condolences.

“I’m going to be taking care of my grandma this weekend because my grandpa passed away, we are all still grieving but I always look look at the bright side of life, trying to stay positive”
That didn’t answer anything. I understand that you can’t just flip like that, years of sleeping, hugging, kissing, talking, eating, etc. I don’t know the grandma. This question was not about the grandma. It was an email from an acquaintance who happened to mention that their still grieving and sharing how they are going through it.

Though it is also not easy on the child, years of guidance, hugs, kisses, talks, etc. I don’t want to seem like I’m brushing off the deceased with a short condolence, but I really wouldn’t know what to say with an encouraging word.

Though I would easily try to offer words of encouragement if it was a close friend or relative.

But being an acquaintance, would it proper to inquire about the person who has died and try to offer some words of encouragement or should I just stick with providing condolences.

Ah a short simple reply. I don’t know if I could say the last line though because “help in any way? how about you bring my grandpa back or remove the pain from my heart”

I over analyze things, sorry.

I will probably stick with maybe a long condolence.

Though I’m still interested in perspectives. If this was in person would it be proper to offer a hug. Though maybe it wouldn’t be good to possibly cause them to start crying, but if it were to happen I would say something along the lines of “its ok, just let it out”

Or maybe they’d reject since they don’t want to be hugged by a random person, or they want to keep a “good” composure.

Best answer:

Answer by Ed Fox
Perhaps your grandma is around 70 – maybe married to your grandpa when she was 20 – a lifelong love and constant companion suddenly gone. There is no bright side. Not for some considerable time until she has adjusted to being totally alone

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