Question by nikki f: dealt a bad hand what to do how to help?
in the last week i lost a really close friend jeremy green 26 and my big “brother” cousin, its rediculously hard, my little sister passed away 2 years ago and from there its just gotten harder i dont know what im going to do with out jeremy and darin life is empty. thank god i have the love of my life dan but i still dont know how to cope although ive been through it with my little sister its still terribly hard what should i do

Best answer:

Answer by Affy007
So sorry for your pain and the loss of Jeremy and Darin.
Here’s a website that I’ve looked over that may help a little.
http://www.griefworksbc.com/Teens.asp
It originates from British Columbia, but I think loss and pain are universal. You can post a memorial and some on there can be contacted. It begins:
“You’re hurting. Someone that you love has died. It may seem that no one understands and that you are alone in this loss. It’s really hard to ask for help when you’re trying to be independent and stand on your own.

Your feelings are so complicated. You’re mad, sad, sometimes you might even be glad. You may be a little afraid of what happened, wondering who’s next or if it could happen to you. One thing for sure, you feel kind of different from your friends and family. You can tell that people aren’t sure what to say around you and no one seems to want to talk about the death with you, even though you really want to.

And, you never know when it will hit. You can be walking down the street and a memory comes up and, before you know what happened, the tears are running down your face. It’s kind of embarrassing.”

Also on the page a t http://www.griefworksbc.com/About.asp
It says : “Teens who are grieving and coping with death can be helped by:
a person or group of people their own age who are also grieving and can understand and share their experience
close friends who may not share the experience but have acquired some knowledge and skills about grief support and who are willing to listen
a trusted adult who listens and can give positive grief support.”

Also a site http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/someone_died.html has a good article about loss. An excerpt : ” If you’ve lost someone in your immediate family, such as a parent, brother, or sister, you may feel cheated out of time you wanted to have with that person. It can also feel hard to express your own grief when other family members are grieving, too.”

About.com http://parentingteens.about.com/od/grief/tp/parentgriefresources.htm has links to Online Communities for Parents and Teens Coping with Grief

I hope you can find comfort and solace soon. God Bless. : )

Add your own answer in the comments!

 

 

January 18, 2009 Joyce Duffala, What It Does – http://seeinggoodatwork.blogspot.com/ Rev. Dr. Joyce Duffala believes that our lives are easiest and richest when we live from the awareness of our oneness w…

 

GriefShare provides support

Filed under: grief and loss support

“I think it is very difficult to get through grief, but being around others who have also experienced loss provides incredible insight and support. It can provide strength through faith and give people permission to let their grief happen so they can …
Read more on Batesville Herald Tribune

 

Unique grief accompanies the loss of an infant

Filed under: grief and loss support

But, talking about and sharing one's thoughts and feelings is a necessary part of the grieving process. This, marriage and family therapist Dan Stroman said, is why the Lost Angels support group has been an important part of the community for the past …
Read more on Prince Albert Daily Herald

 

Cyclist pedaling across Canada to grieve loss of father and promote heart health

Filed under: grief and loss support

Photo courtesy of Cody Shepherd The Shepherds have received a lot of support after the loss of Brent, who was an active member of the Airdrie community. Brent owned a pet boarding business called The Place 4 Paws located just outside of Airdrie.
Read more on The Calgary Journal