Question by lady: Are you thinking of giving your baby up for adoption?
FACT: Losing a child to adoption involves the same type of grief as losing a child to death or miscarriage. The difference is that it is FAR worse. There is no closure.

A child lost to miscarriage or death is not taken against the mother’s wishes and given to strangers to raise with the deliberate plan that the mother would never see her own child again. Joe Soll in his book Adoption Healing likens adoption grief to psychological death, which is a very different reality from a physical death because there is no closure – no support for the feelings of loss, no grieving and mourning period. With adoption, there is no closure. With miscarriage or death, there is no coercion.

A professional counsellor states: “I know two women who lost children to adoption, later had another child who they raised and then the child died. Both of them respond the same to the question ‘Which was worse?’ They have no trouble stating that losing the child to adoption was worse, because there is no closure and no end to the grief.”

http://www.keepyourbaby.com/adoption_myths.html#MYTH1
I am PRO-CHOICE , this is information, AS STATED IN THE QUESTION, for those girls or women who have ruled out abortion and are thinking about giving their baby up for adoption. They are vulnerable and there are paid professionals who are telling them how “wonderful and strong” they’re being for giving their baby to a “good home”. Please if you are in that situation, visit the website. If you aren’t would you please refrain from talking about something you don’t know any thing about. Thanks.
Kristina, thanks for your comments, I believe that all children deserve a good home, with their real, natural parents as a first choice. Unless you’ve been through this, I don’t think you can understand the ramifications of giving your child up for adoption, ESPECIALLY IF YOU REALLY DON’T WANT TO, BUT EVERYONE AROUND YOU IS TELLING YOU IT WOULD BE BEST. If you want to keep your baby, it can be done and you can and will be a good parent.

Don’t agree to anything until you’ve held your child in your arms.

Personally I would choose abortion over adoption any day.
LoriBeth, I am so sorry that you lost your daughter, that is horrible. What I don’t understand is why you would be answering a question about adoption. It doesn’t make sense.

I didn’t write the quotes, those were taken from mothers who had given one child up for adoption and then had another child they kept, but unfortunately died.

Ask them. They have lived both.

Did you visit the site? Please do so before passing judgement.
ONCE AGAIN… THIS IS WRITTEN 4 THOSE THINKING OF GIVING UP THEIR BABY 4 ADOPTION….

did u visit t/website?

For those who are thinking of giving your child up 4 adoption, these are the kind of idiotic remarks U will have to listen to 4 t/rest of UR lives.
BY THE WAY, ABORTION IS LEGAL !!!!!!! DEAL WITH IT.

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Answer by texas_angel_wattitude
Whats your point? I believe a woman has the right to abort if she choses or to give a child up for adoption. I know women that have done both. The ones that have aborted feel grief but none that I know of wonder yrs from know is the child safe. Personally you shouldnt judge someone for their choices none of them are easy and I do not think ppl should keep and raise a child they are not ready for, stable enough to support or take care of or mature enough to give the love and attention they need

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