Question by rosey: Need advice for a 58 yr. old male friend who can’t get over his 2nd wife’s betrayl.?
I am asking for male advice here,
prehaps from men the same age / and similiar experiences.
My friend had his wife (25 yrs. his junior)
leave him after 5 yrs. of marriage. (suddenly)
after he had put her through college.
Shewent onto be a very successful profesional.
He is a blue collar worker.

He can’t get over this. It’s been 5 yrs.
since their divorce.

He was married the first time for 20 yrs.
No problem w/ that closure.

I am not romantically interested in him , nor he
I.

I just would like to offer guidance if I could
…he talks about her all the time.
Doesn’t want to date.
(HE is very handsome, in shape, has financial
stability. )

I have no advice…..since I am female
and younger.

I just listen….but, he seems stuck
in a time warp w/ his grief process.

and won’t go to therapy.

Help….thanks.

Best answer:

Answer by curious one
He needs to take responsibility for what happened, there were many signals all the way that that woman was using him to foot the bill for her college, but he didn’t want to see that.

Now that she left, it doesn’t do any good to him to think about the incident, he was the architect of his own destiny, and he is old enough to understand that, leave the past on the past and start thinking what he wants to do with the rest of his life.

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