Borderline Personality: Friends EXTREMELY Misunderstanding About OD?
Question by TyrannosaurusBex: Borderline Personality: Friends EXTREMELY misunderstanding about OD?
Basically, last week I OD’ed on paracetamol and had to go to A&E and was hospitalised for a couple days getting it out. Only a few of my friends do know but out of the three that found out first, who I thought were closest to me, two of them ended up being absolutely horrible about it. One of them says he hates it when people are suicidal and can’t understand how anything could be that bad. He doesn’t understand how mental health problems could cause someone so much pain, and when people have a choice of living or dying, how they could opt out and choose death. He says there’s no problem out there that cant be fixed and there is “so much understanding and support” for mental health problems now and there is no excuse for suicide. It also doesn’t help that he has had cancer but even people who have beaten cancer and seen people suffer and die, I know can sometimes empathise with health problems you cannot see with the naked eye, and at least vaguely still understand suicidal ideations and/or behaviour. He and my other friend just think I am an attention seeking, self pitying, drama queen who needs to stop vying for sympathy and put life in perspective. They think I just felt a bit low, and he said “She won’t do it again, it can’t be that bad, she can’t want to die as much as she says she does, or she would be dead”. My other friend Nikki said to me “There are some problems in this world people just don’t have sympathy for, for example I don’t have sympathy for schizophrenics cause my mum has schizophrenia” (and her mother abused her, now she seems to think it’s a reason to hate everyone with schizophrenia. In my opinion immature). She said “life goes on, and while we do care about your feelings, we have to look out for ourselves”. (Cause their instant reaction to all of that was to worry about what would happen to our housing situation if i dropped out, and they were basically blackmailing me to stay in it, (we are university students, or I was , but I am deferring my second year and getting a job hopefully). And they were livid when they found this out, because “I will make them all suffer and render them homeless and leave them high and dry, just stick to the course, if you say you’ll fail you will”. And they were just like you’re not that bad, just cause you have these ‘feelings’ they called them, stop downplaying the house situation, it IS a big deal. They said we are not going to walk on eggshells and not ‘speak our minds’ just cause Bekah ‘gets upset and cries’. They just don’t see how bad I really feel, on a day to day basis, and how everything they were saying and how they were acting, was making me feel and think , tying in with my disorder. I don’t even want sympathy I don’t want people melting at me feet oozing sympathy, but for instance all week after he’d found out Jordan (my friend) just ignored me, not even a ‘hi, how are you’, just said ‘I am staying out of it’. Apparently to him this is the same as ignoring me. And then when he found out how I felt about that he was just like ‘Well SHE hadn’t been making an effort to speak to ME’. And he’s really angry because I’ve never opened up to him about my BPD, he just feels like he never knew me at all, (in sixth form i just always seemed so together apparently, and then completely changed and this angered him because of how little it showed he knew me), as it is one of the most difficult (I find) health problems to describe to someone, and I can in full confidence say that, because I also have had Anorexia and Depression, and it’s by far the hardest. And with his attitudes on mental health and suicide he doesnt make it very easy. What I am just trying to say is, these people just have their priorities SO out of order, and have been, well basically, immensely cruel and I have barely been able to speak to them or go on facebook because I have just been getting bombarded with all these emails with them worrying about the stupid house. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
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Answer by D.D.
Ok , you cannot just write a long run together paragraph like that and expect many people to read it.
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