Question by Sophia: Is my daughter’s behavior normal after a death?
We had the most amazing, nicest, sweetest, most angelic cat in the world for 18 years. My daughter grew up with the angel cat for her entire life. When the angel had to be put to sleep 2 months ago, my 21 year old daughter didn’t take it well. She started smoking again (she had quit, hadn’t smoked since she was 17). She refused to talk about the situation. She stayed in her room for a week. Then she put a photo of her cat on her desk and sometimes she hugs the photo and pets it.

Is this normal or should I be worried about how my daughter is coping with this?
Barry- that was a really beautiful poem.

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Answer by J
It’s only been 2 months and she grew up with that cat, so yes I’d say it’s normal. If she continues to hug and pet the photo on her desk for too much longer, you might want to talk to her about it but I don’t think there’s too much you can do since she’s an adult.

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