Question by l8yonfire77: Obsessed over this guy during and even after high school?
I have had a “crush” on this guy since we were in elementary school. I was always really shy, fair, thin blonde hair, and on the chubby side. Everything he did was like the biggest deal. 😀 Opportunities to get to know each other were limited at our private christian school.

So, I’ve never actually told him I like/love him! In my head, he’s everything I want in a guy. I wrote in my notebook me plus him equals love in middle school and someone read it out loud so small school the news spread quickly I was humiliated. A few obsessive embarrassing emails in middle school, flat out rejection needless to say I cried. So in high school in turned into even more of an introvert while he was happy and interacted with everyone/popular. He’s definitely really cute and I got to a mentally trained point where I could interact with him and sit with our group and never really show any crazy towards him like I used to. But then of course, when I went home and crawled into bed I dreamed about him asking me out and girl stuff like that. 🙂

Currently I am dreaming about him almost every night, and in each is him either rejecting me or not being close to me. I don’t know what I should do, is it something to tell him to get it off my chest? Is this really such a bad thing? Or should I do some “intensive psychotherapy” and try to get rid of these feelings for him.

Why I love him: His smile, kindness, thoughtfulness, smarts, looks of course, shyness. He’s modest and exclusive. He has never really dated a girl. Our minds are so similar being raised the same way. This is the main reason I would like to get together, to have some good conversation. These are a whole jumble of thoughts, sorry. Please give me your insight and if there’s any hope for “us”.

Best answer:

Answer by Laura
I think you should just find sometime in the hall or when you leave school to talk to him. But i’ve found that if a guy really does like you and they’re shy they’ll try to be away from you. That doesn’t mean that every time he walks away he’s getting self-conscious or anything. Guys also like when the girl makes the first move. Don’t be to straight forward, but make it more obvious that you like him. If he still doesn’t pay attention, ask him who he likes. If he starts to fidget it’s probably you. If he won’t tell, tell him that you like him just so you can stop being confused over his feelings toward you, or your worries of being rejected. That way it’s done with, and if he doesn’t like you, you can find a guy that’s better.

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