Question by hippopotamus’es r cool: When our beloved precious rats pass on how did you carry on.?
its so heart breaking .. I come home and they are not there waiting for me everything reminds me of them.. My room was set up for them to run around in and now,.. they are gone… I came home the other night and actually called for them then remembering.. im so sad… I can’t believe how they are not in my life anymore.. I … i don’t know how to express this but if you can share anything to help me please do.. I am at a loss for words… it’s sooo sad.

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Answer by Filid
First off, weird though it sounds, check with your local pet stores, human socity, rat fan clubs ect. Usualy at least 1 if not several can point you twords a pet loss support group. A lot of people have a harder time greiving for their animals, and reciving the support from friends and family they need to properly handel the grief. Even more so if you pet isn’t as common as cats and dogs.

I lost 8 rats in a singel weekend, and it ripped me apart. (There was a gas leak in the apartment while I was away. By the time the friend who was supposed to be feeding them noticed anything was wrong even those who weren’t already dead were too sick to save). Worse then losing them with all their personalities and affection was the fact that very few of my friends could understand why I *wanted* to own rats to begin with, let alone the grief of losing them.

A second idea is to give them a “memorial” service. We as humans have so many little rituals that we follow with death. Funerals and memorials and wakes. But for whatever reason, when the loved one lost is a pet and not another human, we expect to get though and “over” this loss faster, without any of our rituals. So give yourself the rituals, allow yourself (and family if aplicable) to remember all their little quirks, to grive for them, and then to say goodbye.

Its probably way too early to suggest looking into getting new rats, but let the idea sit in the back of your head and brew for a bit. You will know when you are ready, and the joys that a new rat can bring into your life are often that “last” bit of healing you need.

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