Question by JennaBear: have you experienced postponed grief?
I’m taking a “Loss & Grief” counseling class this summer, and the professor told a story about a woman whose dad died when she was 3. She grew up with her stepdad and said she never noticed the absence of her dad until her wedding day 20 years later…she said that that was when she began to feel all sorts of grief (the reason she came in for counseling).

He went on to say that many people’s grief is postponed until a later date, especially stuff that happens with children.

Have you guys experienced this in relation to adoption?

Best answer:

Answer by cantstopLinnyG
Yes. While I was sad and confused growing up, it was only when I had my own children did the enormity of my grief show it’s face. It actually came in waves. It was even worse when I found my n Mom, but when I finally met my n family & saw firsthand what I missed, it really sunk in.

My best friends Dad died when she was 5, and her Mom never remarried. She started going through grief counseling shortly after she got married.

It makes sense, though. Many childhood victims of various traumatic experiences do not seek counseling until a much older age.

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